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The Good Girl Game Changers Podcast

Season 1 - Breaking Free Of Our 'Good Girl' Beliefs

Do you ever feel like you're constantly juggling expectations - both your own and others' - of who you're supposed to be and how you're supposed to show up in the world? Maybe you've been labeled as "too much" or "not enough." Perhaps you've found yourself exhausted from striving for an impossible standard of perfection or silencing your own needs to please others. If any of this resonates, you're not alone.

In this season of the podcast, we explore the 'good girl' beliefs that we need to perform perfectly, please everyone and protect others to be worthy of love and what it takes to break free.

Episode 1 - Why 'Good Girls' Burnout

We've been asking women around the world what "good girl" means to them, and most trace it back to a moment between ages 6 and 11 when someone they trusted taught them that being "good" was the price of safety, success, and love. That early belief can quietly run the show for decades, leaving many of us exhausted, disconnected from who we really are, and ready to ask: how do we break free of the beliefs that no longer serve us?

Episode 2 - Dr. Kristin Neff - Do You Need Fierce Self-Compassion?

Do you find it difficult to say “no”? Are you scared of setting boundaries? Can you confidently and calmly stand up for yourself? If mastering these skills feels like it might stretch you well outside your comfort zone, then Dr. Kristin Neff's skills of fierce self-compassion may help.

Episode 3 - The Best Question To Ask When You're Struggling

When you’re struggling what do you say to yourself? Studies suggest many of us say horrible things to ourselves in these moments like: “You're so stupid!”, “You’re such a loser!”, “No wonder no one loves you!" or worse. But what's the best question to ask ourselves in these moments?

Episode 4 - Dr. Carol Dweck - Can A Growth Mindset Free You From Perfectionism?

Do you hustle through your days chasing perfection? Does the prospect of failing fill you with fear? Is feedback and criticism painful to hear? Then, practicing a growth mindset could help free you from your 'good girl' hustle for perfection. In this episode, Dr. Carol Dweck teaches us how.

Episode 5 - Do You See Crticism As A Gift?

When someone offers you feedback or criticism, how does your body respond? Do you brace yourself for the sharp pain of hearing you’re not good enough? Or does your heart open up with appreciation, and your mind fire up with curiosity for the opportunity to learn? How might a growth mindset help you listen to feedback with self-compassion?

Episode 6 - Elise Leohnen - Why Do We Feel The Need To Be 'Good Girls'?

Growing up, were you encouraged to be a ‘good girl’? Do you find yourself, even as an adult, still struggling to meet this impossible set of expectations? Where do these beliefs come from, and why are they so hard to free ourselves of? Elise Loehnen shares her wisdom with us.

Episode 7 - The Gifts Of Envy & Anger

When you feel envy or anger, how do you respond? Do you put on your kindest face for everyone to admire, while viciously criticizing yourself for being petty and mean on the inside? Or do try to rid yourself of these emotions by shaming and blaming the people who made you feel this way?

Episode 8 - Sue Marriott - Are You Securely Attached To Yourself?

When it comes to your relationships, do you bend over backwards to please others in the hope they’ll love you in return? Do you play it cool and silence your needs in the hope they’ll admire and respect you? Or, are you able to interact in ways that embody trust and love for yourself and others? Sue Marriott teaches us the neuroscience of our nervous systems.

Episode 9 - Are You A People Pleaser?

When your interactions with others become challenging, how does your nervous system respond? Are you able to stay grounded with your connection circuits turned on? Or do your protection circuits take over and turn you into a people-pleasing or protecting machine?

Episode 10 - Sue Marriott - Do You Find It Hard To Trust Others?

Do you find it hard to trust others? Do you long to have closer relationships but find yourself overwhelmed with anxiety and fear when people want you to open up? Do you find being emotionally close with others confusing and exhausting? Sue Marriott shares the zones of secure relating.

Episode 11 - How To Safely Connect With Others

When it comes to connecting with others, does your nervous system tend to run “too hot” or “too cold”? Or are you able to live in the secure relating sweet spot of “just right”, even when your relationships become challenging?

Episode 12 - Juliane Taylor Shore - Do You Need To Set Better Boundaries?

When it comes to feeling respected and valued in your relationships, do you know when to make requests and when to set boundaries? Or do you spin your wheels making complaints or issuing demands instead? Juliane explains why boundaries are a way for people to be more connected to one another.

Episode 13 - What Boundaries Do You Need To Set?

When it comes to setting better boundaries, it helps to start by figuring out exactly what kind of boundary you most need. Is it an external boundary (between you and someone else), an internal boundary (the work you do to support yourself), or both? And how do you figure this out?

Episode 14 - Juliane Taylor Shore - Six Steps To Setting Boundaries That Stick

When it comes to setting boundaries, do you send others mixed signals instead of clear messages? Are your efforts to communicate what you need packed with awkward moments or kind connections? Do you come away second-guessing yourself or full of self-respect? Juliane shares the four different types of boundaries we need for our brains to feel safe.

Episode 15 - Are You Scared To Set Boundaries?

When it comes to setting and honoring the healthy boundaries you need in your life, are you scared of how other people will respond? Will your family be mad? Will your friends be hurt? Will your colleagues be upset?

Episode 16 - Dr. Dan Siegel - Do You Really Belong?

When it comes to the relationships you prioritize in your life - family, friends, colleagues, and community - do you really belong, or are you just fitting in? Dan shares how his 4S model of safe, seen, soothed and secure relates to his new work on intra-connection, insecure and secure attachment.

Episode 17 - Do You Show Up For Yourself?

When you’re struggling, how do you show up for yourself? Do you stoically push through whatever challenge you’re facing? Do you distract yourself by running around and helping others? Or do you make the space to sit down and listen to what your body and brain need you to know?

Episode 18 - Dr. Tori Olds - Can You Be Your Wisest & Kind Self?

How does it feel when you’re the wisest and kindest version of yourself? What impact does it have on you and others? What might life be like if you could more consistently show up as the person you are capable of being? Dr. Tori Olds explains how Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps us understand our capacity for self-leadership.

Episode 19 - How Do You Find Your Self?

When have you led with curiosity, compassion, clarity and calm? How have you shown up to challenging situations with courage, creativity, confidence, and connection? When your Self - with a capital S as identified in ⁠Internal Family Systems (IFS) practices⁠ - is present, what makes this wiser and kinder state possible?

Episode 20 - Dr. Tori Olds - Do You Trust Your Self?

What if those ‘good girl’ parts of you that seem stuck in old patterns - like perfectionism, people-pleasing, and protecting others - are actually trying to keep you safe? And what might change if you could help them trust that you're now capable of responding to life’s challenges in healthier ways? Dr. Tori Olds shares some further ideas to help us 'unblend' from our protective Parts.

Episode 21 - Are You Stuck In The Past?

Does your perfectionist part tend to micro-manage others at work? Or does your people-pleasing part rush to control your family dynamics? While these protective parts of you have good intentions, they're often stuck in outdated strategies that no longer serve you or others well. But how can you ask them to stand down?

Episode 22 - Nahid de Belgeonne - Are You Protecting Everyone But Yourself?

Do you exhaust yourself trying to protect everyone else's wellbeing while ignoring your own needs? Have you become so skilled at silencing your body's signals that you only notice them when you're completely depleted? What if your nervous system is desperately trying to tell you something that could free you from these depleting patterns of self-sacrifice? Nahid explains the physiological side of the nervous system and shares somatic tools.

Episode 23 - Are You Over Functioning?

Do you find yourself constantly pushing to achieve more? Are you always trying to perfect everything you do? Or have you learned to sometimes put down the weight of endless ambition and just be present in your body?

Episode 24 - Dr. Margie Warrell - Do You Have A Courage Gap?

Do you find yourself playing it safe to keep others happy? Does the thought of disappointing people fill you with dread? What if your desire to be ‘good’ is actually stopping you from being great? Dr. Margie Warrell explains the two core dimensions of courage: our relationship with fear and our willingness to take action despite fear.

Episode 25 - What's Holding You Back?

When fear shows up in your life, how do you typically respond? Do you stay safely within your comfort zone to avoid any risk of failure? Or have you learned to make peace with your fear and take courageous action anyway?

Episode 26 - Season Finale - Breaking Free From Our 'Good Girl' Beliefs

Chelle and Evie wrap up season one of the podcast, share groundbreaking new research with listeners and reflect on their biggest ah-a moments from the season.

Episode 27 - Bonus: Season 2 Sneak Peek - Who Helps You Stay True To Yourself?

When something triggers your perfectionism or people-pleasing, who helps you stay true to yourself? Do you have role models who show you what authentically pursuing your dreams looks like? Are there people in your life who celebrate rather than judge when you step outside society's 'good girl' expectations?