Do you uplift others?

When was the last time you genuinely celebrated another woman's success? Creating spaces where women can authentically share their strengths, celebrate their wins, and receive genuine support isn't just kind—it's revolutionary in a culture that often teaches us to compete rather than collaborate.

"When we take down another woman, we are scoring points against ourselves, because while we're all fighting amongst ourselves, we're not addressing the real problems that are making us insecure in the first place," explained Kasey Edwards, columnist and bestselling author of ten books, including her latest Goodbye Good Girl, Hello Me!, when we interviewed her recently. "For me, uplifting other women is an act of rebellion - I'm not going to follow society's instruction to judge. I'm going to cheer for this woman instead."

Based on what we learned from Kasey, these three tools can help you create a powerful culture of celebration and support for the women you huddle with:

• Cheer Squad Card: Create a small card listing the names of people who genuinely support and celebrate you. Someone earns a place on this list by meeting three important criteria:

  • Are they also showing up and putting themselves out there? This ensures they understand the courage it takes to be seen.

  • Have you valued their support in the past? Are they honest with you, willing to challenge you when needed, and celebrate your wins?

  • Do they have the capacity to support you now? Not everyone who was once supportive can be there for you at all times.

• Run a Humble Victory Lap: Celebrating achievements openly creates permission for everyone to recognize their strengths. Ask "What's been your proudest recent achievement?" instead of just "How are you?" When someone downplays their success, counter with specific validation: "That was impressive because..." Then physically celebrate together – a happy dance or high fives – as studies show experiencing progress increases motivation and connection.

• The Gratitude Wave: Create ripples of appreciation by contacting one woman weekly with a specific, detailed compliment about her strengths or contributions. Deliver your message with full presence, whether by text, voice note, or in person. After a month, notice how this practice of recognizing others' strengths has transformed both your relationships and your own perspective.

We took away so many aha insights and practical tools from our conversation with Kasey about uplifting others. For more of Kasey's wonderful work, visit her website, or purchase a copy of her new book Goodbye Good Girl, Hello Me!

Remember, as Kasey encourages: "When we uplift other women instead of judging them, we all rise together."